Trans*Phobia (snarl)
Transphobia… *snarl* 71 Comments
Journal Entry by TransBear 
3 months ago
These transphobic comments left on a very good friend of mines wall have inspired me to write some things, even though I will not be responding to that bigots comments to him directly.
I admit I was quite hurt about those comments, which was his intention.. I had a moment or 2 of wanting to ask Mz_Estelle to remove the pics of me and her…
but,
Why should I change anything because of bigotry?
Why should I Change anything out of what I (and others) can see is jealousy?
Why should hateful comments be allowed from someone who has barely met me, acted like an idiot when he did, and the only crime I have done to him, was to call him on behaviour that was incredibly inappropriate and directed towards someone I care about?? Well over one year ago! Believe it or not… for me, This isn’t actually about me anymore. These Transphobic comments hurt others likeme. It also hurts those trans-people who are newly coming out, and are looking to be accepted for who they are, see such outrageous bile and put themselves back in their closets.
I am shocked that people still have their little boxes of “real men” and “real women”. Gender is between the ears, not between the legs! I am shocked that in a world or culture where we are more than happy with power exchange dynamics and so on, my transition and physical appearance would be an issue to an apparently “cultured” person.
I guess that is part of why I am here, to push peoples boundaries… To make them think, and if some people cant cope, they lash out. I am available to
answer questions, to help people get their head around gender transition, gender fluidity…if you have any questions.. are unsure..ASK ME!
But. These Transphobic comments are not ok and certainly not acceptable or tolerable, within this or ANY community. It makes people feel unsafe, and transpeople and those who are differently gendered have EVERY reason to feel just as safe being themselves within this lifestyle, as anyone else does…
I had been thinking what kind of stand I can make. How do I respond to this hateful BS?? This journal entry is my way of responding and venting also, without entering with the other person, a fruitless battle of trying to work through their hatred. I will not stand for Transphobic people in my life. Nor will I support those that support them.
I thank my My Miss for being my logic brain, my pup for being my cuddle toy,Mz Estelle for her amazing reply and lastly, my friends for listening to me rage at them for the last 24 hours.
